Ninja 1000, FJ09, Versys do not have the big bike feel. Versys 1000 might be ok with 2 up, but probably not. My Ninja feels smaller than even an FZ1. Feels about the same size as the 919.
FJR, Concours, ST1300 would be better two up, and will certainly feel bigger. But even then, I hear they aren't the most comfortable for the passenger. Obviously it's all subjective.
I always hear that the Vstrom 650 is actually comfortable for the passenger.
I'd take your wife with you to go look at bikes. I did that, she actually like the ZX14, I believe.