I think bocomark was just trying to say there is no way that any 'mistake' by a professional, trained EMT/Firefighter/Doctor or whatever, no matter how grave the circumstances, can ever compare to the loss felt by the families in question. Mainly because the comparison lies in two different scenarios.
One is grief over a loss, a loved one, and perhaps anger at someone who made a mistake.
The other is anger at self for the mistake, and grief over making the mistake. And of the consequences (lives lost, etc.) and all that comes with it (having to live with it, how to say you're sorry, liability, etc.). No matter how much they grieve over the mistake, they do not have the personal connection with the person lost. Yes, they will suffer intensely for it, but it's still different.
Very different circumstances indeed. I think we are comparing apples and oranges and trying to say they have the same flavor.
So let's image this: In the circumstance of the firefighters who made a mistake and 'dropped' the car on the young man; let's imagine that the firefighter who made the mistake (if it was just one) was actually the boy's father.
What you are saying is that A) it would not matter if the firefighter was the boy's father or not, the amount of 'grief' (categorizing all feelings into one area, but you get what I mean) doesn't change. A 'non-father' firefighter would feel just as bad as the 'father' firefighter.
What I think others here are saying is B) there is no chance a 'non-father' firefighter could possibly compare in depth of grief to those of a 'father' firefighter, if it were in fact the father that made the mistake and cost him the life of his son.
That may not be a good comparison, but I think that's the closest I can sum up how I feel about it.
As a curiosity, 07919Dave, do you have any kids? I only ask (and not trying to be offensive) as my perceptions on grief, sorrow, love, compassion, and sacrifice increased a hundred fold once I had kids. I almost lost my wife both times she had the kids, too. And as weird as it is to say, parents have an untold connection to other parents. They just 'understand' because, well, they've been there. Again, hard to really explain it unless you have kids, maybe somebody can back me up or explain it better.
To sum it up, I'm glad the kid is OK, and I'm glad he and his family are not angry at bystanders for just trying to help out. And I am thankful for all EMT's/Firefighters who put their lives at risk, as part of their job even, to help us folks out when we need it the most. 9/11 comes to mind every time.
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